My on-going fear as a SAHM is that I will become the true epitome of THAT MOM. You know, the one who wears her jammies to take the kids to school and thinks that dressing up is wearing a clean shirt and sweatpants to the library.
This fear has always been my motivation to being a lazymom. I'm afraid that someday I will realize that without my kids I have no identity. Well, guess what Ladies! Our kids will someday leave the nest and we will be alone with our husbands again. If we have centered our lives around our kids, what will be left of us as women and as wives? What will be left of our marriage. My mom once told me that if I don't take care of myself, I won't be able to take care of my family and my home.
Sooooo true, Mammas!!!! In that instant I had a revelation. I was holding my 6-day-old firstborn in my nasty, stanky arms that hadn't seen the inside of a shower for days, nor had I changed clothes in as many days. My mom took the baby and assured me it was ok to let babies cry. (it really is--it's what they do.) She made me take a long shower, get dressed in real clothes, blow out my hair, and put make up on. It was miraculous how I felt afterwards. And guess what! The baby really was fine. From that point on I have always made time each day to make sure that I feel good about how I look before going out.
Don't get me wrong. I don't shower or wash my hair daily. For one, it's not good for the oils in each, and for two, it takes too much time. But I do make sure that I at least wash my face and brush my teeth and hair. I also try to "put myself together" clothing-wise even if it means sweats (like today). I have going out sweats and going to bed sweats. The going out (to the grocery at the most) sweats are black bootcut yoga numbers. Believe it or not they don't stretch out at the knees (my absolute pet peeve!) and from a distance they could be mistaken as regular pants. I usually pair them with a cute, clean top (no boxy t-shirts!!!) and a cute hoodie or denim jacket. This is an outfit I wear out maybe once a month. (Today is that day!!!) I always make sure though that on that one day I take the time to do my face and to do my hair.
You will be amazed at the difference in your outlook on life if you take a few extra minutes a day to take care of yourself. Let the babe scream for five minutes while you put on some mascara and lip gloss. Plan ahead the night before and do like LM1 does. This will allow you the extra moments for yourself. Trust me, your kids will appreciate it, not to mention what your husband will think.
Remember that you have been fearfully and wonderfully made! You are the handiwork of a loving and very creative Creator God. Nothing He makes is worthless, especially not you. He lovingly made you and placed you in your life to serve Him. You are immeasurably loved and there is no end to your potential in Christ Jesus. Don't be afraid to let the beautiful woman that God created you to be come out and show her face. Take care of yourself every day and watch the miracle that will take place in your heart, in your life, and in your family.
This post was somewhat inspired by this post. There will definitely be more posts like this in the future! So be sure to keep your eyes open to these little Style Snippets.