So by now you should all know that being a lazy mom isn’t really about being lazy, per se. If you don’t know that, then geesh! Where have you been? Start at the beginning already!
Continuing on my Parenting the Lazy Mom Way series, let’s talk about responsibility. Namely, how to teach our kids to be responsible. Because really that’s what being a lazy mom is all about. We want our kids to grow up to be great responsible adults, but, just like anything in parenting, how can we expect them to be so if we don’t teach them how?
Wouldn’t you agree with me that something that is sorely lacking in our world today is people who are responsible? I chalk this up to the fact that not many people want to be accountable for what they do or say. Can I get a witness?
So if we want our kids to break the status quo in the area of responsibility, how do we teach them to be responsible?
Consequences. Life is full of them. And allowing the consequences of our children’s actions to fall directly on their shoulders is a great way to teach them responsibility for what they do. I mean, if we are constantly getting our kids out of the natural consequences of life, then all you’re really teaching them is that mom or dad will clean up their mess, right?
This is why since our children have been babies we have used the term “consequences” with them when they did something wrong. When they needed correcting, we’d tell them that they had “earned a consequence” for what they did. By the time they were two, they could use the word themselves. People at church would comment that they had never seen a 2 year old use such a big word before!
And we made sure to tell them they earned a consequence. It wasn’t given to them, it was earned. Big difference.
Earning consequences works in every stage of life…
Toddler: “We don’t hit our brother! We are a family, we love each other. You’ve earned a consequence for hitting because you knew better.”
School Age: “You didn’t finish your homework? Then you’ll have to go to school and face the consequences for it.”
Teen: “You decided to play around on Facebook instead of do the chores I asked you to do? You’ve earned a consequence for not obeying.”
Now, what those consequences are is up to you, but just make sure you actually follow through with them! Otherwise there isn’t really a consequence, now is there? It’s just an empty threat that your kids will learn to ignore with all your other empty threats.
Allowing our kids to experience consequences as they grow up will teach that there is consequences in life. Because how many of us know that if you don’t show up to work on time over and over again, you get fired? If you don’t pay your car note, your car gets repossessed. If you don’t take the garbage out, your house is gonna stink!
Consequences for what we do and don’t do are everywhere. Why not teach your children this while they are still under your roof and you can mold and shape them into great adults through it?
Now this is just a drop in the teach-your-children-responsibility bucket! So be sure and listen to October 14th’s Lazy Mom Radio Show as my special guest, Kathy Deming, and I share ideas you can start implementing today!
And be sure and leave a comment below, I’d love to hear what you do in your home.